QUOTE(Void @ May 20 2006, 08:02 PM) [snapback]398549[/snapback]
I'm pretty sure that real love originates above the belt.
That's what I'm saying.
The problem is that it has come to encompass such a broad spectrum of definitions, many of them shallow and undesirably dysfunctional relationships that it's become overused and almost tainted as a word and a concept.
Because "Oh baby, you're so beautiful" is what we hear in what we all call love songs, and loss of ability to get laid causes people to emo and lament over how much "love sucks", it's become cheapened. Love is a good thing that all of us strive for to have a more fulfilling existence; not the subject of a dime store romance novel.
But then, I guess human emotion is something that even our ridiculously complex language can't really define, can it. There are so many levels of love and affection that creatures can feel towards one another; Lust and infatuation can be present at some levels, but they aren't all that love encompasses. They're often blinding to reality and cause difficulties in working relationships. During courtship, passion is what causes us to believe we are 'meant for' the person we are with, and we try to hide all our flaws and impress, and believe we can do no wrong, nor can the other person. Then that fades, and in the aftermath, you have reality; you can love that person, and probably always will, but you might not always like
that person enough to keep up a functioning partnership. That's when people start to think love sucks, when it's a relationship malfunction caused by simple need for acceptance and maintenence.
I love everyone. (Even if I do get angry and use the H word once in a while) I certainly don't like
everyone. There are lots of people I can't put up with. (Like half the population) Which is why I think a lifelong 'love' partnership should be based on more than just the love aspect; but of the like and compatability aspect. If it comes to it in the future, I don't want candlelight and champagne and constant giggles and nuzzling and public makeout sessions for the rest of my life; I'd prefer to have someone I'm comfortable sitting in the same room with, just coexisting. Probably too demanding and idealistic of me, though.
But hey, I'm half awake and this probably won't make any sense to me tomorrow morning.