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sort of... the age gap should not be too large... or else both sides would not be able to maths each other well...

I don't think it matters all that much (unless the age gap is really huge). I think that if you feel a true connection with someone, then all that matters is to make that connection stronger.

Normally I would say no, but I think in some situations there should be limits.

CNN.com:
KUALA LUMPUR, Malaysia (AP) -- A 33-year-old man in northern Malaysia has married a 104-year-old woman, saying mutual respect and friendship had turned to love, a news report said Tuesday.

I didn't read all of the article, didn't have too...thats to old, how the hell do you marry someone that old serioulsy? she could like die in 2 seconds...whats the point?

I know those words but that scentence makes no sense.
I heard some crappy theory on the perfect age for a partner. (Based on the male's age) It's half his age plus 7 is the youngest a partner should be IIRC.
I'm not wholey sure that 6 year old biys should be aiming for 10 year old girls but all the luck to them.

I dont think age is a problem all that matters is that your in love. (as long as the age gap isnt that big)

And, how "big" is too big for you??? 5? 10? 20? 100?

*Ok, he didn't really say this but he is a convicted peadophile so it's ok.

age dont matter, but in some cases are relationships of interest, like an 45 pervert man with an little inocent girl of 15 years (getting dramatic), (loosing the original track), thats the reason to be careful and dont get blind for "love".

No I don't think it's wrong it doesn't really matter if the person that you love is a tiny bit older than you....I mean does it even really matter in a relationship..?

So age does matter then? You're contradicting yourself when you say "Age dont matter" tghen going and giving an exapmle of when age does matter. You can't have your cake and eat it.

you can't really say "love" when your talking about teenagers in my opinion. i mean don't get me wrong, i did the same thing. but when your young you don't know as much and you have alot of time to grow up.

otherwise as an adult, age doesn't matter but for teenagers in high school and mabe college, age does matter... or it's more of the level of maturity

Awww this reminds me when I was young...oh so adrable, so naive I was back then

Oo.. your 16 and you think your not young?
and from what I see you are still naive in some respects..

Correction I'm fifteen

My point is there even stronger then.. XD

to big would be like a 40 year old dating a 19 year old or something.5 years is to big if your like 17 and 12. as long as both are the same maturity level age usually dosent matter.

yea, i know, i dont explain me well, the point is to be careful about the people with we would be, if we dont care ages, heh, i dont lost the point now xD

well i dont know..i geuss it does matter some.

Generally, after you graduate from college, it's free reign.

How do you mesure maturity then?



Yeah thats a pretty simple and effective rule

i think it brings up another point or debate:

Is there such a thing as love?

Asu: it is all depending on the opinions of each person, some dont belive in it untill they percive as being love.
It exists in those of us who have exsperienced it past or present.

That's an easy question.
Resounding YES, IMO.

i belive in love just not undying love. i mean love doesn't always last.

in love, i believe that age doesnt matter. but in cases like an old man marrying a young woman, some questions might arise whether the girl is only marrying th guy for money (considering the old guy's filthy rich). its is kinda hard not to doubt someone's love if their ages are opposite sides of an era. but if they're really in-love then what the heck!!!!

This poll doesn't really have all of the necessary options. I would say "In some cases." If you define love as being the emotional connection between two people, then age shouldn't matter. The only problem with that is that it is hard to tell where it starts. Some people are simply too young to have that kind of emotional commitment. So if you go tto young, then yes it would be wrong, but other than that, no, it cannot be wrong.

I think it depends on how old the person in question is. I mean, if you're really young, like, underage, then you shouldn't be dating someone way overage. It's not only illegal, it can be dangerous. But if you're overage, then, you should be old enough to know what's giid for you and to make your own choices.

I'm declared opponent of any stereotypes flowing around the "love and age" topic. Especially one - "he" should be older. Rawr X____x *bends ears* Mine one is younger by a year. And no-one sees the difference...

as long as its not 80 year old man and a 20 year old woman and vice versa i dont care which way it goes.

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@Stealth - Nah, not weired as far as I see it. That will be ok in my book... as long as they feel fine themselves. One of my friends' sister was 16 and going out with a guy who was 30 for a while, and that was a bit unnerving. (I don't know if that could have had put him in some legal trouble.. )

I don't know why I'm one of the rare people these days who isn't squicked by age difference. Unless it's pedophelia, there's a greater issue in matching levels of maturity and respect than in years. In most cases with american teens, there is next to no maturity or proper life experience, so that makes it less healthy for them to try to have a relationship with an older person, but otherwise, if two people are happy and can see each other as practical equals, it doesn't really matter.

It's weird that it seems age difference has only really been a very big deal in the past fifty years or so. I'm not saying that 13 year old pioneer girls weren't negatively affected by being made to marry older men and begin bearing children, but it's an odd thought that only recently did we start to see age differences in relationships as disgusting or perverse.

Heck, I've seen a guy complain that his 18 year old ex was dating a 21 year old guy, because of age difference (but mostly just bitterness). Indeed, curse that harlot for dating an old geezer!

I find it funny how people nowadays are so quick to lash out on an attraction or relationship with a few years difference, as if it's "zomg, child molestration!"

But I've had friends who'd prefer to date older guys. I asked why and one of them said, "Mentally, girls age faster. What's the point of having a boyfriend who doesn't think on the same level as you?"

But I'm talking about one to two years age difference here

Toby-Chan, I agree with you on age differences. (Though I may be biased since my boyfriend is 17, 18 in July, and I'm 14?) I've never understood some of the laws they make for age differences...

Colette- The laws for certain age differences are a good idea, as they help protect children. Apparently, they're also very recent, but because of those laws, children can not legally consent to sex, and that means no excuses for child molestors. Some of them will argue that the children agree to activities that harm them emotionally and physically, when in reality, children literally don't have the mental capacity to understand their needs and the consequences, so sexual activities with prepubescent children can't be called anything but rape, which it properly is.

The line gets blurred when it comes to teenagers. Physical brain development can still sometimes be a problem. But that's another can of worms. It's hard to put a legal measuring tape on maturity, since God knows plenty of people over the age of eighteen should not be allowed to consent to reproductive activities, but the law should be universally applicable lest it's used unfairly. Of course, that can also cause problems in cases of technicality, such as the 18 year old boy who was put in prison for ten years for 'statutory rape' for recieving oral sex from a 15 year old girl at a party.

I'll stop before going into some unrelated tangent.

Thanks Toby Chan and Tombow, as long as 2 people care about each other then who cares about the age differences (unless one of them was still young enough to be a child and the other an adult)

@summoner colettet-the laws they have are to protect the young ones who could be taken advantage of. 3-4 years apart sounds like no big deal if u were 18 and he was 22 because you are considered as an adult And girls do mature allot faster then guy's . Im not sure if your relationship is fine or not, but here in Australia if you are under 16 and the guy is any more then 2 years apart then their is trouble.

23 x 17 seems A-okay to me

I'm 17. I wouldn't want to date a boy younger than me, but I couldn't date one much older either because I'm still jailbait.

If both people in a relationship are very mature but young, then I don't mind, as long as there are no legal issues. For instance, a 12 and a 20-year-old.

To my view as long as both persons are adults then let them be. Why should you care about this certain adult dating someone who is way older than him/her? It is their life, they are the ones dating that person not you so why say something? Now if, say this 30 yr old guy is dating an 18 yr old girl, now that is just not ok. Simple because the one who is older might take advantage as Tombow said of such young minds.

Teenaged-wise, more then a year or two is too much. And let's be legal...(Sixteen and nineteen is not okay.)

As for adults, I think they should be in the same decade. Five years apart is good.

(-yawn- There, I've debated for the night. Good night!)

Two conscenting people of physical (and mental) maturity sounds about right for a good, stable relationship.

I think age doesnt matter in love , you can love anybody of any age , it just depends upon your liking of th person !

If people think that age matters, then they are seriously narrow-minded. To get to know the person that you love is basically the only thing that matters. If you love the person to death, then there should'nt be a problem. I have a friend that has about 20 year difference parents and they seem to get along real well

I don't see the problem with age difference in love. As long as it is not for money or some other lame way to get rich then it should be fine. However, there are some people who are doing it to attract attention or because it is "in fashion". When I mean "in fashion" I am saying modern day people following what celebrities are doing.

It really doesn't matter, in my cases.
My boyfriend is turning 16 in December, and I'm turning 13 in July.
I'm not so stupid and I'm far from "I wanna lose mai virginity" driven that love will rob me of my wits and then some sexual / emotional disaster will happen...

I don't think age matters in a relationship if it's with two consenting adults, but I don't think someone sixteen or younger (roughly) should go and date someone 4 or more years older than them, as they could really get taken advantage of and there needs to be some limits so that a ten year old doesn't end up dating some creepy thirty year old.

You're 12. Intercourse of any kind should be the last thing on you mind.

Slightly relevant on the topic of consent and protection of the innocent and those considered to be without capacity to consent- Does anyone know if there are laws, statewide or otherwise, legislating any sort of policy on sex with mentally retarded adults?

Well, my boyfriend is 17 and I'm 14. 3 years doesn't sound too bad, but at my age 3 years definitely matters. (After all, it's 3 more years of experience, he'll be in college when I'm in high school, ect.) However, I think I'm fairly mature for my age and my parents as well as his are fine with it. I think the reason my mom is fine with it is because of how horrible my brother's relationship is going (Meaning, it's going all too well way to fast. They've been going out for two months on they've already had sex and they also claim to be engaged. She's 15 and he's 17; way too earlier to being thinking and doing stuff like that so fast in my opinion ._.) But my mom knows I'm not an idiot like my brother so it's fine =P

I don't have an opinion on age laws. If you're really in love you can wait the years for you significant other, I think. I don't know where I'm going with any of this >_>