QUOTE(Triple Soul @ Jun 30 2007, 09:04 PM) [snapback]557761[/snapback]
That's messed up right there. Parents shouldn't hit their kids, no matter what.
I agree to some extent...I find no problem with spanking on the rear, but the face? I find that borderine abusive. =/ Of course, I didn't tell her that. [I just re-worded it and said "extreme"]She says her dad did the exact same thing to her as a kid. I guess that makes it right in her eyes.
- I'm with Popo
on this. From what I see according to your description of the incident, your mom hit you because she was angry, and she hit you with the intention of hurting you. That is completly different from spanking for discipline purposes. It doesn't matter where she hit you... face or butt.. as long as she hit you because of her anger, that was WRONG of her, IMO, and she shouldn't have done that. And, her dad having done to her the same would no way justify her doing the same to you. Although, it explains part of the reasons for her behavior.
Those are learned behaviors, and often it repeats the cycles between the generations. I agree with Mini
-san. I think your best recourse is to wait till you reach 18, then get out of there, and gain your independence. Often, the financial independence does wonders in those dynamics, I think. Either that, or learn some Karate (I'm serious!!) but in your case I think you'll reach 18 before you get any good at Karate.
And, IMO, your best "revenge" to your mom and your mom's dad is to never hit your child once you get your own, and do not ever fall into her "pattern" yourself... but that's sometime in the future, I guess.. ^^ The first goal is to gain the financial independence and get out of that place, and get away from your mom. Meantime, crossing fingers that you'll have as little of these horrible experiences as possible!! Take care.. *big hugs*
QUOTE(Twilightz @ Jun 30 2007, 11:03 AM) [snapback]557646[/snapback]
- Okay, I almost fainted today.
I didn't eat breakfast, stupid me... >.<
- O.o Please be careful!!
(Try not to skip the breakfast.. ^^)
QUOTE(Kenji @ Jun 30 2007, 08:27 AM) [snapback]557635[/snapback]
They engineer cars that are called cars. Got it?
But, I take your words for it.
BTW, hope your father will get better (and becomes less grumpy) soon!! ^^
QUOTE(ScarMySoul @ Jun 30 2007, 11:47 AM) [snapback]557653[/snapback]
~ I've made 50 paper cranes.
- Wow, you must be getting really good at making those Origami cranes!!
- Hope you got some good night's sleep!!
- Hope you did ok with your Trig test!!
- Now that the Summer camp is over, what are you going to do??
- Did you go see another movie?? Which one?? ^^
- I agree with Mini
-san.. Mail order is your friend!! ^^
-san - Sounds like you had a very interesting experience!!
- I'm so glad your scheduling conflicts have worked out!!
- Hope you're getting some sleep/rest tonight!! ^^
- Happy Canada Day
to you!! Are you going to attend any activities?? ^^
- For everyone who's in our Northern neighbor country... Happy Canada Day!!
- I have so much to do this weekend.
- But... July 4th is coming!! ^^