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The obsession with the weight of females., Who's to blame?
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post Dec 27 2010, 01:31 PM
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Okay this whole obsession with a woman's weight really bothers me.

Very often other women will express to me things like "You're so thin! I envy you!" and I'm thinking "Why....why do so many women want to be so thin like me?"

I accept the way I am and have learned to like myself the way I am but that doesn't mean I think other people should try to be a size 0 too. Yes I LIKE my size but that's only because I should be happy with the way I naturally am right? It is natural for very few people though I think and I hate seeing people starve themselves to be that way. I think that in general women who are larger than me are considered more attractive too by men. Most guys like girls with larger breasts than me and a fuller figure. I think a lot of guys tend to assume I'm starved since that's the image portrayed of all skinny women which also bothers me. I've had people come up to me and say things like "What do you eat? One cracker a day?" And that is of course not true but I wonder how many people would believe me if I really told them I just ate 4 slices of pizza and also had some chocolate and that I did not puke it back up after(I hate puking I've only puked once this year due to being sick).

And one time on some forum I used to go to someone took a picture of me and pasted it in with concentration camp victims. I've also had a girl yell at me in the cafeteria when I was putting my back pack on "Careful you might break your skeletal frame!"

I get a lot of backlash and hate for being so thin.

I know people hate being called fat but being called a starving stick isn't exactly nice either.

Also large breasts seem more 'valued' in our society than small ones and mine are small. So other girls who are larger than me, although they want to be as thin as me, they probably don't want my small breasts. Being as thin as me and having large breasts at the same time probably isn't going to happen for hardly anyone. This is why a lot of women are so insecure. Look at the standards we're expected to be like.

I have insecurity issues about my boobs sometimes....and since I was born with a birthmark on my face that caused me a lot of insecurity also. Birthmark is obvious in this picture: http://frigida.homestead.com/files/DTAC4.jpg

I do struggle with feeling beautiful sometimes.

Has anyone else had this problem? Where does this obsession with weight come from?

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post Apr 24 2011, 11:44 AM
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I've been really skinny and, now, really fat. I'd like to say I've moved beyond all that body image stuff at my age (pushing 40), but I haven't.

When I was really skinny and flat, I was jealous of the girls with bigger boobs. When they put my braces on, I lost 10 pounds from not being able to eat anything that wasn't liquid, and it disturbed me that everyone thought it was nice for me to lose so much weight when I was already so skinny. I was actually glad when I put on my "freshman 15" pounds because my clothes weren't falling off my body anymore and I finally had curves.

Now that I've had 4 kids, I have... well, the body of a matron. The last one came along before I could lose the weight from #3, and while I did lose weight after #4, it was in an unhealthy way (from lots of stress) and it pushed me into fibromyalgia, which made it too painful for me to exercise. So now I'm in a position where it's very hard to lose weight, and very easy to gain. I'm on the HCG diet now, where you give yourself shots and eat 500 calories a day. I'm losing weight mostly for my health, but I can't deny I also want to look slimmer. The stretch marks and saggy boobs I can deal with, there's no diet that will help those. But it would be nice if I could buy clothes that actually fit. Plus size people have a wide variety of figures, and the clothes are cut to fit most of them, but not mine.

I think the thing that makes it the hardest for me to come to terms with my body is my husband. He tells me I look "sexy" but his actions don't match. Whenever he tells me I'm looking "sexy" I look at him like he's quite clearly insane. That's a problem inside my head, though. But I wish he'd mature to the point where he'd want me because I'm ambitious or smart or any other quality I can still possess at my age and after everything that's happened to me.
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