QUOTE (Chiyo @ Dec 29 2010, 07:04 AM)
You aren't the first member on this forum to have had this problem.
Let me try and put my thoughts in. My weight, in regards to health, is fine. In terms of this country's average, I am a smaller size than many women.
Do I still wish to be thinner? Yes, I do, because I can't see it from your side of things. If we take our old friend, the media, in to account then my size is still deemed too large to be attractive enough to portray. Fashion dictates we should be thin, so we are told we should get ourselves down to size 0 so we fit in to those skinny jeans etc. Just as you are unfairly criticized for being too slim, others are unfairly criticized for being too large. In a world where slim is deemed a far more attractive quality, only those who have been on the receiving end (as you have) can fully understand being slim isn't all it's cracked up to be.
Now, as for breasts, it depends what you class as "valued". I have a friend with very large breasts (H cup) but she is also fairly slim (UK 10/US 8). People see her and think she is going to be a complete airhead who is obsessed with her appearance and she hates it. Can she do anything about it? Aside from surgery no. She has gone in to modelling, and though accepted in the USA, she's struggled here in the UK because she still deemed too large for the target audience. Having large breasts has been a burden to her so she tried to make something of it and still comes across blocks in the road.
We're a judgemental society. That will never change.
Yeah that's true. Sometimes having large breasts, although it makes more guys think you are attractive, it also sometimes draws too much attention to them and makes people think you are really vain, etc. It's like the whole 'dumb blonde' thing too. I hate how some people honestly think I'm stupid just because I'm a blonde.
Women's looks are judged way too harshly in our society. I find it really lame and annoying.
Anyway, yeah I try to show people that actually being a size 0 will get you .... too....so that people will stop wanting to be a size 0.
No matter WHAT size you are, if you're a woman you're going to get .... for something having to do with the way you look. It just bothers me.