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Okay! My last post was too vague, so here's a more clear one! Why do young people (teenagers) have sex before they are married? What age should sex be allowed at? Should we have sex education in school and what age? Do you think it would make teenagers want to have sex more or less?
EDIT: Night Watcher Alchemist, thank you for being a little more specific with your topic! I changed the title as well as the description so its more to the point. Also changed a few of the poll answers. When you do your titles please make sure that its actually about the topic your making the thread about okay? Not titles like "I don't get it" or "what the hell?!" just for example. Again if you're going to post a new thread be sure to send it to me first and I'll give the yes or no! ~Scar
Edit II: Because the conversation has headed in such a direction, I have altered this topics opening post (this one). If this topic is completely different to the discussion you wanted Night Watcher Alchemist, let one of us know, namely me since I made the last edits. Once the topic has been established I will remove all needless edit notes and irrelevant posts - Chi
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If I may throw in my two bits...
Like several others have stated, I'm okay with the idea that teens above about 15 (at the very youngest) having sex as long as they know what they are doing in terms of protection and just being safe in general, and (here's the catch, which really applies to any thoughts I have on relationships) that there is a decent amount of trust, love, preparedness, willingness, etc. I know that teens will be teens and that hormones and general lack of maturity and development don't help things, but that's where sex-ed comes in.
Personally, I went to Catholic schools that offered (in my opinion) pretty comprehensive sex-ed starting in 5th grade (10-11 yrs old) where we covered anatomy, puberty and development, and admittedly the sketchiest outlines of what intercourse was. However, we continued in a bit more detail including pregnancy and STDs in 6th grade and 7th grade, and then again in 10th grade, and while heavier emphasis was placed on abstinence as "the best protection" against anything, our teachers made sure we knew about the various forms of protection. I won't say we were encouraged to experiment--we weren't--but compared to other programs I've heard about, sex wasn't as blatantly discouraged in ours. (We were also given a thorough talking-to about how mutual love and trust should be requisite parts of any relationship, sexual or not, and I'd say I very much agree.)
Anyway, back to the question of at what age should sex-ed start, I'd say we handled it pretty well as 5th graders. (As I recall, most kids had had some sort of talk with their parents by then, anyway. I know I had.)
I do agree that the media does not show nearly enough of the consequences of sex, and I feel that it treats most other relatively risky behaviors with the same casualness.
Put simply, again, like others have said, it's not the age that matters to me so much as it is the maturity. Maturity definitely comes with age, though, and I wish there wasn't so much of an emphasis on growing up so quickly. Kids should be informed about what's going on and how to handle it, and thoroughly informed of the consequences.
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